Good morning all, Friday is upon us which means we're gearing up for another installment of my framed series. Today, we're going to be talking about a crucial element that I think should be present at every wedding — wedding humor. Weddings, by nature, are stressful. I hear my clients talk about it all the time. With so many events and details to keep track of, it's easy to let anxiety take hold and become overwhelmed. As a matter of fact, before every wedding I've gotten in the habit of giving each couple a little advice to help set the tone for the big day. I remind them that sometimes things don't go quite the way they planned, but the best thing to do is just shrug it off and remember why you're there in the first place — to have get married and have fun. Everything else pales in comparison. Because, trust me, the day goes by much too fast to be worrying about every little detail. This is why I think wedding humor is such a crucial element. It's a simple concept, but the levity it brings has a way of uplifting the entire day — causing everyone to relax and also yielding better photos. Such is the case with the photos and story below. This moment was captured during Stephanie and Nick's Wedding last year.
It was an early July morning and each one of us was being literally held upright by our coffee. The girls were at the salon going through the usual hustle of getting their hair and makeup done while I was photographing the chaos. The salon staff had their hands full and were attacking each head like a racing pit crew. A bobby pin here, a blast of hairspray there - they were all pretty spritely considering the early hour. As the hair process neared its end, it was time to move on to the makeup. I was photographing the last bridesmaid while they did the finishing touches on her hair. Meanwhile, the bride and other bridesmaids were standing around, talking, and enjoying piping hot cups of liquid goodness. At this point, the makeup artist was frantically scurrying to grab all the tools needed to apply a flawless layer of makeup. We were humming along pretty well and all the ladies were looking amazing. Just then, I heard something...
It sounded like the high-pitched sounds of a laser blaster. My eyes darted around looking for the source. I kept thinking, Do they have the TV on? Is that a ringtone? No. It was the bride. I looked up just in time to see her acting out scenes from the Power Rangers and was able to snap this series of photos. I loved it instantly. Her little sound effects added just the right touch of wedding humor to get us all laughing. In fact, even the salon staff was having a good time with it. Apparently, as she and her mother told me, she's famous for making these sounds. I guess you could say it's an extension of her goofy, yet nerdy personality. She then continued to make more noises for us, some from Power Rangers and even had a little Star Wars thrown in.
In watching the reactions to her little performance, I had an epiphany. I noticed that the wedding party was relaxed, the tension had been erased, and everyone was smiling. It was then that I realized the general tone of the day is heavily dependent on the bride and if she's having a good time, then everyone else will feel the freedom to loosen up and let themselves go a bit too. I personally love the fact that Stephanie wasn't afraid to let her true character come out and showcase her hidden "talents". It's as I said in the beginning, the day is naturally stressful, but if you take the time to add a little wedding humor of your own, the amount of levity that it brings could drastically alter the course of your day for the better. Plus, the memories you could walk away with are worth their weight in gold. When I look at these two photos, I just smile and think to myself, How else could you get shots like these? In truth, you can't. Shots like this cannot be posed or staged, making them so much more special.
So remember, even though weddings are complicated and stressful, yours doesn't have to be. In the sea of things that you need to remember, above all else, remember to cut loose and have fun. Everyone else will thank you for it.
Cheers and Happy Friday!